MAYBE IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON!

Thank God the holidays are over! Some parts of the season were great; other parts…well let’s just say I’m ready to dump all my friends and start over. I learned the hard way that you can’t always depend on your friends when they say they are going to do something.
Like usual, the holiday season was filled with lots of parties and with them, lots of aggravation. “I’ll pick you up at 9 p.m.,” said one friend who was to drive to one party, a party that both of us had told the hostess we would attend. The “driving” friend called at 9:30 p.m. to say that she decided to go to another party “because there were lots of guys who would be there.” This “friend” not only dumped me, but didn’t even take into account her RSVP to the first party. (I went alone to the original party and had a great time!)
Another party and other arrangements with still another friend. I agreed to drive to this one, a dinner party. I was to pick up my friend at 6:30 p.m. and I was on time. My friend wasn’t. She had yet to decide what she was going to wear. At 7 p.m., the time the dinner party was set to begin, I was still in my friend’s bedroom watching her trying on one outfit after another. I was embarrassed when we arrived at the party an hour late. The other guests were already seated and eating dinner. My friend gave some lame excuse while I fumed inside.
Then came New Year’s Eve. Although I had received a couple of date offers, I decided to bypass having to give midnight kisses to either of these guys for a night with good friends. My close girlfriends and I would go to a party together. This was the plan. Then one by one each of my friends decided on last-minute dates. Each one expected me
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to ‘understand” when they broke plans with me. What I understood was that they were thinking only about themselves. Although days earlier they had professed that they didn’t want to be with some random guy just to have a date on New Year’s Eve, all three of them did exactly that. Again, I went to the party alone and, luckily, had a great time.
On New Year’s Day I told each of these friends that they had let me down. All expressed that they were sorry and said it would happen again. But it did. A week later agreed-upon plans were changed, altered and re-arranged to accommodate these selfish young women just because some men called and offered other plans.
That’s it. I’m now ready to move on from these friends, or, at least, to take a break from them. I’ve learned that I need to have girlfriends in my life who are true to their word…no matter what! Plans shouldn’t be changed just because some man calls at the last minute and asks for a date. I’ve learned that men seem to be like women even more when they won’t change plans when they call at the last minute. I just wish my girlfriends would learn this, too.