MEETING MEN IN BARS
I always heard that you don’t meet good men in bars. In the past I didn’t listened to this advice because I figure that I’m a good woman and I go to bars. There must be some good men that go to these establishments too! But I’ve changed my thinking and I now know that this advice is based, in part, on truth. I’ve learned the hard way that a lot of jerks spend a lot of time in bars. (This is something I don’t do. My visits are once in a while with friends when we don’t have something else to do.)
Now I’m not talking about meeting a guy or a friend after work or on weekends for a drink. This is an acceptable social activity. I’m talking about men who regularly hang out at bars—the kind who have their own bar stools. I’ve learned to be wary of these “lounge lizards.” They are the ones who are always drunk and in search of an easy and willing female. Who wants one of these? No matter how good looking they are these men are far removed from any prince-charming status.
So how do I handle the bar scene? I never go to a bar alone. I never accept a drink from a stranger. I never give out my home phone or cell number. If some man looks promising, I’ll tell him where I work. If he’s interested and not so drunk that his memory function is hampered, he’ll know how to track me down at work. Better yet! I’ll ask him for his business card. If he doesn’t have one, I’m a bit leery. He could be married. Of course, there are reasons for not having a business card. He could be, for instance, a full-time student seeking advanced education.
Some of you may be thinking that I’m a snob because I primarily only consider men with business cards. I’m not a snob, but I worked hard to get a college degree and to find a professional job. I have business cards because I have a good position. I would like the same from possible dating candidates. A business card is one way of determining if a potential dating candidate has the same drive that I have. This provides a good starting point for friendship or a relationship.
I now have a large collection of business cards which I use only for reference. I never call a man that I have met in a bar. I let them make the first move by calling me. Although this is the 21st century, I’m an old-fashioned gal. I like to be pursued, but only by good and sober guys. Getting connected with a drunk at a bar isn’t for me.
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