Finding a Man Online
I finally gave in. Almost immediately after I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago, friends urged me to go online and join one of those sites that match you up with “Mr. Perfect.” I resisted this way of meeting someone until last weekend. I took the plunge and I’m here to say that I’ve learned in a few short days that there are a whole lot of men out there who don’t know how to read!
In addition to providing information about who I am, the site application asked some basic questions about what I am searching for in a potential date. I wrote that I wanted a college graduate. (Since I worked hard to get a degree and I would like someone who also has accomplished this.) Also I provided an age range of 24-30. I’m 24 and I consider anyone over 30 years of age too old for me.
Soon after I was “accepted” as a member on this online dating site, I began to get “winks.” (This means male members are interested in my profile and getting to know me.) This is good, I thought…that is until I checked these members’ profiles. Without exception, every “winker” was over 30 years of age with a few near 40. Also, a few didn’t have the college degree that I stated was important to me. “No thanks,” was my thought. My reply to them was a little gentler!
On-line dating may be the way to go—and I’m not saying that I’m giving up so soon—but, so far, I’m not impressed. This way of meeting people may be better than the bar scene, but it may not be for me, especially if responders aren’t mindful of my basic requirements.
I have had a great deal of response to my profile, but my Mr. Perfect has yet to cross my path. He may come via a wink and an e-mail, but I’m betting that the good old-fashioned way of meeting a man—through introductions from friends; through work; through group outings; etc.—may be the best way for me.
I’m young and I’m not desperate for a man. I’ll busy building a career and my time is limited…but a dinner date with a nice under-30 man with a college degree would be nice!