I’m back in the dating game and I’m learning it’s not as much fun as I thought it would be. For those of you who have been following the trials and tribulations of my life in my blogs, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of more than five years. I’m trying on-line dating, as well as the old-fashioned way of meeting men. Both approaches have been interesting…and that’s an understatement!

Thus far, the old-fashioned way seems to be what’s bringing men to my door. I’ve met a few guys through friends and although they are as nice as advertised, they haven’t been as perfect for me and my friends told me they would be. (Maybe my friends really don’t know me!) There have been some pluses, however, to these friend-introduced dates. I’ve had good dinners in nice restaurants and I haven’t been pressured for “payment” afterward, if you get my drift! (I’m sure they don’t want a bad report going back to the matchmaker.)

But I want more than a nice dinner. I’d like someone with a sense of humor, good personality and good looking. So far my friends haven’t seemed to have found anyone for me who meets these qualifications. Also, just because I’m on the short-side—I’m 5’2”—doesn’t mean that I should only go out with short guys. (My friends just don’t get this although they all know my former boyfriend, who is over six-feet tall.)

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I finally gave in. Almost immediately after I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago, friends urged me to go online and join one of those sites that match you up with “Mr. Perfect.” I resisted this way of meeting someone until last weekend. I took the plunge and I’m here to say that I’ve learned in a few short days that there are a whole lot of men out there who don’t know how to read!

In addition to providing information about who I am, the site application asked some basic questions about what I am searching for in a potential date. I wrote that I wanted a college graduate. (Since I worked hard to get a degree and I would like someone who also has accomplished this.) Also I provided an age range of 24-30. I’m 24 and I consider anyone over 30 years of age too old for me.

Soon after I was “accepted” as a member on this online dating site, I began to get “winks.” (This means male members are interested in my profile and getting to know me.) This is good, I thought…that is until I checked these members’ profiles. Without exception, every “winker” was over 30 years of age with a few near 40. Also, a few didn’t have the college degree that I stated was important to me. “No thanks,” was my thought. My reply to them was a little gentler!

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Boyfriends come and go…and sometimes they don’t go in the best possible way. This I have learned the hard way—the painful way. But, happily, I have learned that this is a necessary step in the search for a lifelong partner and for lifelong happiness.

At the end of my senior year in high school I fell in love with my best friend. After three years of a close friendship, we became boyfriend and girlfriend. The summer before going away to college was my best summer ever. We were together constantly and shared our dreams and our goals. The first flush of love was so very magical.

We left for our separate colleges and vowed that the 400-mile distance between us would not change our feelings for each other. We only grew closer over the distance and saw each other often. The four years flew by as each of us enjoyed our college experience—we were smart enough to encourage each other to take advantage of all that college has to offer. We trusted each other when social events at our perspective schools required dates. He would take one of his female friends to his activities; I took buddies to mine. On summer breaks we were totally together. We both believed—no, make that knew—that we had found “the one!”

College graduation came and I was ready to launch myself into my career. My boyfriend wasn’t ready for what he considered “the daily grind” of a “real job.” With his wealthy parents’ endorsement he first traveled Europe and then spent a year on the slopes of Lake Tahoe. During this time we stayed connected. He was the one for me; I was the one for him.

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I don’t need a man to make me a worthwhile woman! It took me a while and some pretty hard lessons, but I’ve finally realized that being solo doesn’t diminish who I am. I’m smart, funny, good looking, sensitive, loyal and so much more. If a good man comes into my life and recognizes these attributes, I’m up to the possibility of a relationship. Until this happens, I’m not only okay alone, but I have the opportunity to learn more about the woman I am and what I need from a man.

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I hope to get married some day to a good man, have children, and then live happily ever after. This dream may not sound like I'm a liberated woman. I am, but I also want a life-long partner with whom to share my goals and successes. And I want children so I can introduce them to all the good things in life.

Right now I'm building a career, so marriage isn't even a consideration at this time. But that hasn't stopped me in my search for a good man. After all, I just might have to go through a dozen or more men before "Mr. Right" comes along—and this might take me some time.

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